There are so many tools and techniques for couples to practice in between marriage counseling sessions. There are many resources available to help couples learn new ways to examine and strengthen their compatibility in relationships. Here are some top picks from the last few years.
1. The Five Love Languages by Gary D Chapman
This book looks at the most common issues in the relationship, different love languages. The languages he has identified are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Chapman demonstrates each of our unique needs and how they must be met for effective relationships. The book has a questionnaire and a journal for further consideration.
2. Couple Skills by Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning
The book talks about how to work effectively in your relationship? Some skills are focused on improved communication, coping with problems, and resolving conflicts in healthier ways. It teaches the reader acceptance and commitment therapy which helps each person to accept his or her partner’s feelings and emotions, without resorting to judgment.
3. The Relationship Cure by John Gottman
The author is probably the most well know couples expert. His books have helped people turn troubled relationships into positive and workable ones. This book is based on 20 years of proven research. He discusses a healthy relationship, emotional connections, and how the couple responds to each other’s needs.
4. When the Past Is Present by David Richo
The author explores how being stuck in the past can destroy our present. Everybody tends to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether our partners or friends or acquaintances. If we can become more aware of dysfunctional patterns, we can prevent ourselves from repeating them. This can be the key to a healthy relationship in the present.
5. Relationships: The Ultimate Guide to Better Relationships by Mia Conrad
For stronger and healthier relationships one must identify and remove toxic people from their lives. This helps a person to have peaceful relationships. The author looks at what ruins relationships, what strengthens the relationship, what makes relationships last, why certain relationships are romantic and having healthier and happier family connections.
6. I Love You but I Don’t Trust You: A Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum
Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This book helps the couple to rebuild mildly to severely damaged trust between couples. The author shows you that you can heal and trust each other again and there is hope for the relationship if the couple truly wants it to work.