We all know parenting is not an easy task. It can be overwhelming, with a lot of ups and downs. Kids test your patience at every step, and sometimes you just lose it. You couldn’t control yourself and yelled at your kids. Soon you realize it has become a regular pattern. But frequent yelling at your kids can have lasting effects, and affect your child’s growth and behaviors.
Here are a few effects of yelling at your child:
- Aggressive Behavior
Yelling at your kids frequently can develop aggressive behavior in your children. For them, yelling at others is OKAY because that’s what they have been seeing at home.
Your child may start feeling insecure in his own home and would stop sharing his feelings and thoughts with you. Your child needs to feel safe and secure in your presence for his growth.
- Development of Fear
Children who are yelled at too much develop fear in their hearts; they might start thinking nobody would listen to them and understand. They fear their parents and it can lead to a distant relationship between parents and children.
- Lack of Confidence
Sometimes parents belittle and insult their children when they yell. This can lead to a lack of self-confidence and poor self-esteem.
Insecurity and fear lead to loneliness in children. They think they can’t confide in anyone and no one understands them, so why bother letting anyone in?
Alternatives to Yelling at Your Kids
- Calm Yourself
If your child has done something that makes you angry, catch yourself before you yell and try to calm down. Take deep breaths and give yourself a time out.
- Don’t Yell but Correct Them Firmly
Kids misbehave occasionally, but instead of yelling at them correct them calmly but firmly.
- Use Consequences Instead Of Punishment
Threats and punishments humiliate your child, so rather than punishing, use consequences for their behavior or actions.
- Apologize if You Yell
Sometimes you just can’t help yourself and yell at your kids, so apologize to your child after yelling. Tell them you are sorry for losing control. This way you instill in your child that it is wrong to yell.