No relation is complete without some disagreement and conflicts. Fights and arguments are as much part of a relationship as love and intimacy. But what happens after a fight is more important. Do you apologize to each other and makeup, forget about it and move on, or you give/receive the “silent treatment” aka “cold shoulder”, which is the worst option for any relation.
Here are a few reasons you should avoid silent treatment in your relationship:
- The silent treatment is disastrous to a relationship
you can read about it all over the internet in various studies and research. Silent treatment means you are not communicating with your partner. If you are the one giving your part the cold shoulder, you might convince yourself that you are just taking the time out to cool yourself or giving time. For the one getting it, it’s frustrating, it makes them feel unwanted. No communication can leads to more misunderstandings and confusion.
- Emotional & Physical Stress on Individuals
It takes a toll on your emotions, makes you unhappy. Especially for the one receiving the silent treatment, thinking when will it be over, wondering what to do to make it better, or what not to do to make it worse.
- Create distance between partners
if one partner gets silent after every argument or fight, he or she doesn’t want to communicate and forcing the other partner to do the same. Instead of sharing thoughts openly and showing disagreement, they might stop sharing their opinion to avoid getting the silent treatment. The lack of communication might reduce intimacy and create distance between them.
- It becomes a vicious cycle
the person receiving the silent treatment can grow increasingly frustrated by the lack of response, which can lead to even more demands that in turn frustrates their partner who withdraws even more. Instead of calmly discussing the situation. Both parties can make it worse, again and again.
Always remember, any fight or conflict is not worth destroying your relationship. So, break the silence and talk!
It might save you a lot of hurt and frustration.
Article By: Dr. Himani