Everyone wants to find the perfect partner in their life. The dream partner that will make you happy and complete forever, but unfortunately it’s not always possible. So many people looking for a different ideal of love constantly frustrates this natural process by making it harder to find someone who is realistically willing to commit or settle down. This is why people often look for “the one” that was supposed to be out there all along, even if they know in reality that they’ll never find them.
Don’t wait for someone to make yourself fall
There is a simple but universally overlooked solution to this problem. Instead of waiting for a “the one” to fall into your lap, you can make the effort to be the perfect partner out there yourself. Don’t wait for people to come and settle down with you because in reality no one can fill the spot that you hold with someone who is perfect for your life. Be the best version of yourself! If that results in attracting certain people toward you, then that’s great! You’ll have chosen a good partner in life, rather than settling for anything less.
People often ask me why they should put themselves out there instead of settling for something less or waiting around for someone else to do it. The answer is simple: to have the chance to have a great relationship. You’ll never have the chance if you keep living a meaningless or solitary life. You will never have the chance if you are not dating and meeting people or exerting effort into your own life. It takes your effort to allow yourself the opportunity.
Learn to take control of your own actions
People who sit back and wait for something to happen right away aren’t taking control of their lives, they’re waiting for someone else to do it. If you want to be in a meaningful relationship with someone who is right for you, then you have to take it upon yourself and make the effort, rather than just waiting around for it to happen. And if that doesn’t work out in the end? It’s not your fault! You know your life and what is best for you. If something real does not come from all of that effort, the only thing that would be your fault is trying too hard or putting too much effort into something that isn’t right for you.
Some people don’t want to put themselves out there because they’re afraid of getting hurt; they’re afraid someone will reject them or break their heart. However, that is not a solution either. The right person has to see you for who you are and love you for all of your imperfections. And if they don’t? It’s their loss, not yours. You can’t force someone to accept everything about you and make it work out in the end just because they said they loved you. But if they do accept everything about you? You’ll have a great relationship because both of you are committed to each other warts and all.
Stop waiting for MR or Ms Right!
So why would you take the risk anyway? Why not just stay on the sidelines and wait for Mr. Right in another person’s life to come knocking at your door? It can happen of course, but you have to be willing to make the effort first. Compatibility is often very difficult to guess at, but it’s easier than you think. That’s why people put so much time and effort into finding this perfect partner or the one that will make them happy. But if you truly stop and think about it, those people who are sad or lonely are far more likely to get someone than those who are happy and looking for someone. It’s humans that want a partner in their life; it’s not the other way around. The desire to make someone happy is very strong, and it can lead you to put too much effort into a relationship. So people who are already happy and content with themselves aren’t looking for that one person who will make them happy either. They don’t have to because they’re already full of joy and love for themselves; they have plenty of people in their lives who can fill that need for love if they ever lose hope of finding their soul mate (or vice versa).
If you don’t want to wait around for someone else, then why not nurture yourself first? Life is challenging and hard at times.