How to avoid being a jerk.
It’s hard not to want to be a jerk sometimes because it seems like people are just constantly asking you for something. Whether it’s your kids, your partner, or even that annoying co-worker who does nothing but ask for favors over and over again — you can’t help but sigh and give in because really, how else do they expect you to react? That’s what makes this list so important: when the time comes, know where the boundaries are and if someone crosses them or steps too far then drop the hammer.
The bottom line is that some people deserve a break from others’ demands and expectations while others need more structure in their life. When those situations arise, keep the following list handy to help you know how to act.
- If you ask someone for something and they say no, honor that choice.
- Never use your children or animals as an excuse to avoid responsibility or be lazy.
- Don’t take advantage of other people’s emotions for your own gain.
- Be honest if something is too much for you to handle — don’t make promises you can’t keep and don’t string people along if you have no intention of following through.
- Don’t treat others with disrespect because it will eventually come back to bite you in the butt (because karma is a real thing).
- Don’t take advantage of other people’s hard work or success to feel better about yourself.
- Don’t ask the people who are most important in your life for any favors until you’re more independent and self-sufficient.
- Be aware of how your actions affect other people and try to be considerate.
- If someone asks you for something, don’t assume it’s a given just because they’re asking — treat it like a favor instead by saying “No” if you can’t honor their request or tell them why it’s not possible.
- Always say “Thank you” when someone does something for you.
I’m sure by now you understand that good people are alike, but different and bad people are all alike. Think of it this way: It’s not your fault if you’re passive aggressive or think everyone is out to get you; it’s just how the world works. But the good news is that as long as there is one person who is prepared to push through and stand up for what’s right, then you can be sure there will always be a healthy balance between chaos and order in your life.
It matters how you are to your partner. It is important to have a clear knowledge and consciousness of the thing and get started and stay prominent in your relationship always.